Today’s world is fast-paced and full. As evidenced by me thinking I have time for 101 things in 1001 days, we try to squeeze so much into our days, that we leave little room for just us, or for our relationships with others others.
I’ve been thinking about this more and more, especially in my married life, of recent times. My husband is a full-time university student, and he works FREAKING hard (way harder than I ever did in my university days). I think this is one of the benefits of being an ‘adult student’ – you discover something you are passionate about, and working late into the evenings on your assignments becomes a pleasure rather than a chore. Because he is so passionate about what he’s doing, he’s also entering (and winning, I might add) competitions, and has secured an internship alongside his study for this year. All of this adds up to a lot of time, and although it’s amazing to see him doing so well at something he loves, it leaves little time for us to hang out. It’s not all him of course – my own dedication to novel-writing in the last two years sucks up much of my evening time too.
We’ve both committed to making sure our time together is more quality and more focused on each other this year. We’ve stopped eating dinner in front of the TV and actually talk across the dinner table (what a novel idea!), we go for walks or cycles (as evidenced by last week’s post), we hang out. One of the ways I wanted to keep our romance and fun alive through my 101 in 1001 project, was to schedule time each month for a husband date night (or day!). So, on Friday night, we piled the car with blankets and camping chairs and headed off for Silo Park.
We love the Silo Markets, they’re so vibrant and alive, thrumming with colour and noise and smells and tastes. What a wonderful way to spend an evening, especially after the end of the working week! It was an absolutely stunningly hot afternoon, and we wandered around the new park developments down there (with husband-assisted commentary on the landscape architecture) hand-in-hand and laughing. We stopped for a cold beer in the shade at one of the many lovely Wynyard Quarter restaurants, and watched the multitudes of boats bobbing back and forth on the white-tipped aqua waters of the Hauraki Gulf. Later, we ate far too much food from the food trucks (tacos, pretzels, burgers) and then settled into a good spot for the movie.
It was so nice to snuggle beneath a blanket together and chill out. I love the way that watching the movie at Silo Park feels like it’s just you on your couch, even though you are surrounded by hundreds, if not thousands (it was utterly packed this time around!), of people. At the end of the movie, the whole crowd applauded, reminding me that this was a lovely community event, and sure accolades for a brilliant movie. We had such a lovely time, and we’re already looking forward to our next date!
In other news, I’m making progress with my latest novel. This is the one I think I’ll work on as my goal novel to complete and send to publishers, and I’m super happy about how it’s going. My heart hammers as I write it, so I hope it does the same for my readers!